There is No Such Thing as Toxic People
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It is a very popular thing in the world today for people to explain to you how to identify and remove
toxic people from your life.
They tout it as a great thing when in reality it is
born from a lie.
It’s born from the wisdom of the world.
How do I know? Jesus.
This thought is not born from the truth which can only be
found in Jesus. It can only be found in seeing your face in
the face of Jesus, the word made flesh. He is the only way
to discern the thoughts and intents of your own heart. He is
the only truth about you and about others.
So, lets first establish that
the idea that you have identified a person as a toxic
person, did not come from God.
If you don’t see this is true in Him, there is certainly
nothing I am going to say that will persuade and heal your
heart.
It’s not other people who cause us emotional hurt and pain,
but rather it is something that is within our own heart.
(I am not speaking about physical abuse. If you are
concerned or afraid of physical abuse and you feel
the best thing for you is to remove yourself from a
situation, by all means, do that.). and know that present
or removed Jesus can heal your heart from pain.
The truth is that the only way what someone says or does can
actually hurt my feelings is if I already have something
going on in my own heart.
This is why two people can have the same thing said or done
to them and what they believe about it be totally different
(i.e. Jesus).
When you see that the root of the hurt is within your own
heart, then you can also see that avoiding those people
could never get to the root of that hurt and heal your
heart.
Additionally, when you realize this, and
you begin reasoning from the truth, you will stop blaming
other people for your hurt and pain.
Blaming and avoiding people is a way for our hearts to feel
like we are preserving ourselves from future hurts. But
once we see that other people are not the root cause of that
hurt, we can talk to God about our own heart and He can heal
us.
True lasting
peace only comes from God, not from avoiding people.
Some will read this and be angry because they are not ready
to let go of the hurt and anger, they feel toward people who
they see as the cause of their pain. This can be setting
yourself up for a life of bondage because if you believe
that peace is only found in others behaving right toward
you, you will never find freedom in that.
You can be free regardless of whether any other person is
free.
But
there is only healing when you look at Jesus and are
persuaded of the truth.
Jesus most certainly had the worst things said and done to
Him and yet, He never returned it, He never got offended or
thought that separating Himself from people was the answer.
Why?
I can tell you what it wasn’t, it wasn’t because He gritted
His teeth and said I am just going love these unlovable
people because that’s what I am supposed to do. No, that is
also death and He didn’t reason that way.
Rather, He was fully persuaded that His life was born from
the Father. And that, “that life” was
an incorruptible life that could not be hurt or injured by
the death in the world.
This cause Him to go to rest, not trying to preserve His
life from hurt and pain, and not return evil for evil, but
with compassion He saw those animated by death as innocent.
At the core, there are only two wisdom's:
we can either look to preserve our own lives or look to God,
Our Father to protect, preserve and bring healing to our
life.
The only way we can go to rest in trusting the Father (in
any area, but certainly relationships included) is to see
your testimony in (Jesus) the son as your own testimony, how
that He will only ever be good to you and has given His
incorruptible life as your inheritance.
Only in Christ can you see the Father’s everlasting love
toward you that will allow your heart to put its guard down
and go to rest. This is the only way you can experience the
love and intimacy you desire in relationships.
Being persuade that your life is born from Him and cannot be
injured from the death in the world, you can discern what is
born from life or what is born from death (from faith or
iniquity).
And reasoning from the truth, you can talk to the Father
about your own heart and He can bring healing. Also allowing
you to see that the other person is animated by something
(death) that is causing the fruit of death to manifest in
them.
In that place, you still might decide that you don’t want to
be around some people, and that’s okay. But in the day that
person is a co-worker, spouse or family member who you
cannot avoid, you can still have the peace that is born from
the truth revealed in Jesus.
Death can animate people, but
death is what is toxic, not people!
It’s easy to fall prey to the lie that people are toxic, so
don’t judge yourself if you have believed that but begin to
talk with the Father about it and find healing in the one
who is your life and your peace.
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